Jeffrey Dahmer – Page 2 – Jeffrey Dahmer Memorial

Jeff and his mom

Joyce was 24 years old when baby Jeff was born. According to her, it was not planned to get pregnant so soon after she got married to Lionel. But Lionel has said that his birth control method was foolproof. It happened after two months of marriage anyway and unfortunately it wasn’t an easy pregnancy. Joyce said it was filled with nausea, pain and bed rest. Her doctor prescribed her medication for anxiety that made it a bit more bearable. Joyce said that Lionel demanded sex constantly near the end of her pregnancy and it caused her to go into premature labor. She was rushed into the hospital and after the emergency delivery, she woke up alone. No recognition of the birth of their son or the labor.

Lionel too has said it wasn’t an easy pregnancy. Everything seemed to bother her, every single noise or odor. This so afflicted her nerves that she began to develop uncontrollable muscle spasms, which distressed her even more. She would get some type of seizures. During these, her eyes would bulge like a frightening animal and she would begin to salivate, literally frothing at the mouth. Joyce has denied she had these seizures. But according to Lionel she got injections of barbiturates and morphine to help her relax. The doctor could not find any medical reason for these attacks. He said they were rooted in Joyce’s mental state.

Joyce grew up with an alcoholic father. According to the Shrine, Joyce often had said she felt helpless and lonely as a child but did not know why. She knew the emotion of abandonment very early. In the Silent Victims, Joyce also writes she has been abused by him.

On May 21, 1960 Jeff was finally born. When Lionel first saw his son, he was sleeping quietly. When he was allowed to go home, Joyce held him gently in her arms. The first few days there was a happiness that settled over Lionel and Joyce. Joyce kept a scrapbook about Jeff where all his first achievements were lovingly recorded. But the feeling of happiness only lasted for a short time. Joyce stopped pretty fast with breast feeding. It made her nervous and she dreaded it terribly. Brian Masters wrote that this abrupt change may have felt like a rejection or distance to the baby.

According to the book Serial Killers: the method and madness of monsters, the most common factor attributed to serial killer is the likely absence of infant bonding. “An infant that is denied human touch and affection develops a sense of only itself – it becomes completely oblivious to others. This is necessary for the infant to survive but can become a destructive trait in adulthood.”

Jeff himself has said he later in his life learned that Joyce had mental problems and that there were times she was gone a lot. But that she was never mean or unkind to him and she actually could be very comforting. He overheard his aunt saying that after he was born, Joyce had suffered a severe case of post partum depression and had to be hospitalized. He said he didn’t know at the time what it was but that he still felt responsible for it, like he had done something to cause her illness. Joyce writes in The Silent Victims she mourned the loss of her dreams, of her life, of her pride. She felt like she and Lionel became a recreation of her own family.

Around 1970 Joyce’s fragile health collapsed. She had been steadily increasing her consumption of drugs. Eventually she was taken to a hospital, where she spent a month in a mental ward. The Shrine says Jeff’s response to this was classic. He blamed himself for his mother’s illness. He had known for as long as he could remember that she had been depressed following his birth, and that he had therefore caused her illness. He also must have caused every relapse. He could not articulate his pain, for fear of tipping his mother over the edge again. He had to keep himself to himself, say little and do less, to protect her, to keep a little calm in the house. The more she saw of him the worse it would be for her. Jeff quite simply felt he did not belong and that if he were to belong he would only do harm. The fact that Jeff had not been troublesome or demanding as an infant ought not to earn suprise. The child who does not ask for attention, wheter or not because he has learnt not to expect it, betrays as inner deadness which can be mistaken for goodness and sweetness of character.

Joyce writes that as Jeff grew older he began to turn inward, became more and more withdrawn and introspective which mystified and disturbed her greatly. She also says that Jeff did came home drunk when he was a teenager and he did seem to spend an inordinate amount of time alone. When she decided to leave to Wisconsin, Joyce says she asked Jeff to come with her and David but that he decided to stay so he could attend the University. He said he could handle it and she should go ahead. Afterwards they spend some holidays together. They were not the warm, loving encounters she had hoped for but she made the best of it, having him for the holidays made a difference to her. Joyce said she felt compelled to stay in touch with Jeff. But he refused to answer.

When Jeff was assigned to group therapy by the terms of his probation, it was noted that Jeff seemed to be very uncomfortable in talking about his mother. In the reports of his probation officer Donna Chester, it was reported that on March 25, 91 Joyce had called him and they talked to each other for the first time in 5 years. She knows he was gay and had no problem accepting it. In the report it said, he was happy.

Joyce was reflective in The Silent Victims. She asked herself how she could be so careless that Jeff felt so insignificant in their lives. She felt like she should have done something earlier, should have known something was up and should have tried harder. Since Joyce had a dad who was an alcoholic, she admits she saw the signs with Jeff and asks herself why she never did anything to help him.

She writes, “I now realize how damaging the constant arguments, anger and physical confrontations were on the boys, especially Jeff. Although I was rarely angry with Jeff, he was constantly subjected to a barrage of fury and anger directed toward Lionel and he toward me. It must have been extremely frightening and paralyzing to him, it surely drove him off to spend more time alone, drove him further into himself.” “I am aware now that my own difficult childhood prefaced my children’s. I, after all, had learned my parenting skills from my parents. I never actually took the necessary steps to unlearn what came naturally to me. And my boys suffered because of it.” “Little did I or anyone else know that the ‘baggage’ Lionel and I were carrying would be so devastating to one quiet, lonely, withdrawn, little boy.”

After Jeff got arrested, it seemed the bond between him and his mom finally got better. They were talking and writing each other. Joyce visited him in jail often as she could and Jeff told her his whole story. He, almost desperately, wanted to make sure she knew he didn’t want the victims to suffer. That he wasn’t mean. To me, this is Jeff in some way wanting to have his mom’s approval, to not disappoint her even more. After this heavy conversation, it seemed mother and son established a comfortable routine. They finally seemed to have the relationship they always wanted but couldn’t find. Despite the circumstances. But unfortunately it wouldn’t last long.. A prison warden called Joyce to tell her the devastating news that Jeff had been killed.

My personal opinion:
I know some dislike Joyce a lot and I respect that, I can understand it. I have disliked Joyce a lot for a long time too but after going deeper into their relationship and realizing, most of the stuff we know about Joyce, comes from Lionel.. it has changed my views. Yes she obviously has made some huge mistakes. But I do believe towards the end of her life she was more self aware of it and even admitted it. I think she cared deeply about Jeff but had too much issues of her own to properly show it. Moms with PPD often dont get taken seriously, especially back in these days. I think this had a big influence on Joyce bonding experiences with Jeff and ultimately Jeff’s feelings of neglect and loneliness. It’s so important for babies to bond with their moms. She also supposedly had BPD. I can’t imagine how hard it must have been for Jeff growing up with a mom that was dealing with some severe mental health problems. But Lionel deserves to be held responsible for Jeff’s neglect in his childhood as much as Joyce. Lionel should have been more present and protecting Jeff. They both should have paid more attention to him but were too busy with each other. They both failed the little boy that was already lost but still had a chance to be saved.

Jeff and STPD

Jeff Dahmer, was according to the Psych Reports, diagnosed with Schizotypal Personality Disorder.

A little background info:
This type of personality disorder falls under the cluster A of personality disorders. The STPD diagnostic criteria for DSM-5 consist of:

ideas of reference
odd beliefs of magical thinking
unusual perceptual experiences and bodily illusions
odd thinking and speech
suspiciousness or paranoid ideation
inappropriate or constricted affect
behavior or appearance that is odd, eccentric or peculiar
lack of close friends of confidants, other than first degree relatives
excessive social anxiety that doesn’t diminish with familiarity and tends to be associated with paranoid beliefs.

Five of nine criteria are required for a diagnosis of STPD.

STPD remained significantly associated with bipolar I and II disorder, PTSD, BPD and NPD. Twin studies have provided evidence that STPD is determined by both familial-genetic and unique environmental factors. A number of forms of psychological trauma and chronic stress have been associated with STPD. Over half of patients with STPD have had > 1 episode of major depressive disorder and 30 to 50% of them have major depressive disorder when schizotypal personality disorder is diagnosed. These patients often also have a substance use disorder.

People with STPD often come across as aloof, flat or emotionally distant, and are preoccupied with fantasy and daydreaming. People with this disorder may ignore ordinary social conventions (for example, not make eye contact), and because they do not understand usual social cues, they may interact with others inappropriately or stiffly. They are very uncomfortable relating to people. They interact with people if they have to but prefer not to because they feel like they are different and do not belong. However, they may say their lack of relationships makes them unhappy. Signs and symptoms of schizotypal personality disorder, such as increased interest in solitary activities or a high level of social anxiety, may be seen in the teen years. The child may be an underperformer in school or appear socially out of step with peers, which may result in teasing or bullying.

Now let’s look at Jeff and some of his behavior that could be related to his STPD:

If we look at his childhood there are obvious signs he kept to himself. He didn’t have many friends, he didn’t interact a lot with other kids at a young age. There were two incidents that are mentioned in The Shrine that could have “started” his STPD. The incident with the tadpoles, where the teacher gave Jeff’s present to her, to another kid he thought of as a friend. He killed the tadpoles with motor oil when he found out. This could have been a trigger for him to be suspicious of people who are kind to him. The other incident is with a choking game he played with the other kids. When it was Jeff’s turn to choke a kid, the kid ran to the teacher to tattle on him. Another betrayal in his early life that could have started his paranoid and suspicious beliefs.
In his teens we can see some of the behavior that is odd and peculiar. The things he did that were seen as Doing a Dahmer. I know this was also a way to hide his true self, his dark thoughts he was already having but it could also be related to early signs of STPD if you think about it.
He obviously never had any close relationships besides his parents and grandmother. Not that he was particularly close to his parents but yeah.
His paranoid beliefs also can be seen in his alarm system he bought but never fully installed. He might have thought just to look of it might scare people away if they wanted to break in.
Examples of his odd thinking of beliefs can be seen in him thinking the yellow eye contacts could give him the same power as The Emperor in Star Wars. Jeff seemed to be obsessed with obtaining a certain power or control over people.
His idea of creating a Shrine. The Shrine he was building was for remembering the physical appearance of his victims but also another way for him to get some sort of power.
Jeff mentioned often it was like he was possessed by an evil force that gave him these compulsions he could not get rid of. He truly thought he was Evil.
Another odd or magical belief could be him thinking that wearing a victim’s face or eating their body parts would make them one with him. That they would continue to live on inside of him
Some people mistake Jeff for being a psychopath because of his lack of expressing or showing emotion. But this is also a typical sign of STPD. Dr. Norman Goldfrab mentioned: His voice was devoid of emotional shading of life and that Jeff was “suspicious of the motives of others, a classic schizoid trait.” Dr Evelyn Rosen’s has said that Jeff had a “schizoid personality disorder with paranoid features.” And added a dire prognostication: “Jeff is not psychotic, but not much is needed to push him and alcohol serves this purpose.”
Schizoid personality disorder is also a personality disorder often mentioned in The Shrine but Jeff was never officially diagnosed with it according to the Pscyh Reports. The symptoms between STPD and Schizoid Personality Disorder do show similarities
While people with schizotypal personality disorder may experience brief psychotic episodes with delusions or hallucinations, the episodes are not as frequent, prolonged or intense as in schizophrenia. It is possible, if we believe Tracy Edwards story, that Jeff might have experienced at that time a brief psychotic episode.
Jeff’s crimes were based on his bizarre fantasies. His whole life was focused on chasing the ultimate fantasy he had of the perfect orgasm and control.

A study has shown that people with Stpd have more chances of having olfactory identification impairment which can explain how it was possible that Jeff lived in a small apartment with rotting bodies and cutting open to viscera without getting sick of the smell himself.

These are the first few signs of his STPD that I came up with. I am open to feedback and things you might know about him that could relate to his STPD. Just to be clear, I am not an expert on personality disorders. During my study I had only one short term on mental health conditions, so my own knowledge is limited. The things I mentioned with Jeff’s behavior related to STPD is how I see it. I just found it weird how little this disorder is mentioned in Jeff’s case.

Jeff and his addiction to alcohol

According to the book, Milwaukee Massacre, the first time Jeff’s relationship with alcohol was noticed, was in seventh grade. A classmate noticed his stash of gin in the locker. He said “I don’t remember much about him other than his drinking. He pretty much kept to himself all the time.”

Alcohol lowers people’s inhibitions. In Jeff’s case he would start doing clown acts that became known as “Doing A Dahmer”. This included things like bleating like a sheep, faking epileptic seizures, sitting in the library and yelling out the librarian’s name. Another classmate said “His behavior manifested a deep need for some sort of attention. He was desperate for attention. But he wasn’t considered anybody’s responsibility. No one ever confronted him or tried to help him. No one ever did anything about it. We just found ways to ignore him.” One of the most haunting things must be the National Honor Society photo. In one of his pranks, Jeff sneaked into the group portrait, where he certainly hadn’t earned a spot. There’s a spooky silhouette, blacked out with a marking pen. The president of the group was so incensed that he ordered Jeff’s image blotted out. It became something of a cheap metaphor for Jeff Dahmer’s life. He tried to get attention, but wound up being erased.

There was one time that we definitely know of that a teacher saw him drinking. In the Shrine it says: One of the teachers at Revere High School saw him sitting on the grass outside the parking lot, with a twelve-pack of beer in a brown paper bag. Three of the cans were already empty. The teacher, Mr Smesko, told Jeff that he really ought not to bring alcohol to school and that he would have to report the matter. Jeff told him that he was having ‘a lot of problems’ and that the guidance counsellor, Mr Kungle, knew all about it. The ‘problems’ were thought by both teachers to revolve around his parents’ divorce. They did not know that he was also struggling with dark thoughts in his head. Mr Smesko could not help noticing, not only that Jeff’s eyes were glossy and bloodshot, as one would expect him to observe, but also that the boy was ‘solemn and depressed’. It is not often that a teacher in the course of a routine reprimand should notice such a detail of mood.

To me, one of the biggest signs of screaming for help during high school is described in the book My Friend Dahmer.
One evening when the school year was coming to an end, the Dahmer Fanclub wanted Jeff to do something big. Like a command performance as how they called it. They started collecting money to give Jeff so he would do his thing in the local mall. The total amount was 35 dollars and Jeff agreed. At the time Jeff was drinking heavily and Derf Backderf recalls in their senior year he never had a normal conversation with Jeff. Not one. Whatever personality he once had was gone. He was always drunk or in character or both. In My Friend Dahmer he says that Jeff already reeked of booze at 7:45 in the morning. Saturday came and it was time for Jeff’s Command Performance. The Dahmer Fanclub picked him up at home and they drove to the mall. During the 10 minute ride, Jeff drank an entire sixpack. It was this moment that Derf was hit with the realization that Jeff was not just odd but truly scary. At the mall, a group was already waiting for him. Waiting to perform his act. Apparently the act went on for 2 hours. Derf recalls it wasn’t as much fun as he anticipated. It actually creeped him out. By late afternoon they had enough. The day would become legend but it ended quietly. There was no grand finale. Derf and another friend walked to the car and made plans for the evening. Jeff was not invited. In the book he says “in truth I couldn’t wait to ditch the guy fast enough.” They dropped Jeff off at home and that meant the end of the Dahmer Fanclub. After this, they excluded Jeff from their friend group. Jeff was alone again with only his own thoughts to keep him company. In the movie My Friend Dahmer you can get a good idea of how chilling an terrifying this must have looked.

By the time Jeff was legally an adult, he was already an alcoholic. His roommate during his one term at Ohio State has said that Jeff used to take bottles to class with him and came back drunk. Jeff got back from the army early because of his alcoholism. In his final year of service, two roommates recalled:
– “He would drink and have his headphones on, kind of be shut out from the rest of the world. He wouldn’t move. He wouldn’t even go out for chow. He wouldn’t get takeout food. He’d drink until he passed out and then wake up and drink some more. There were a lot of people who used to drink, but not like him.”
– “He always had that look about him, something sinister. He would never explode, he never showed anger. He would never act it out. He was very calculating. I don’t know, he was on a steady decline in life. He was on a losing skid and didn’t know how to pick himself up.”

It’s important to remember the effects of drinking alcohol excessively has on the developing brain. Research has shown that young people who drink alcohol regularly, lose motivation to do well in school. This is also noticeable with Jeff. He had the intelligence but went from As to Fs in his senior year. It reduces your feeling of empathy. We know Jeff wasn’t a psychopath but he did seem to not have the normal empathic feelings. He even wondered himself why he didn’t felt more remorse for what he had done. His alcohol dependence definitely had something to do with that. In my opinion it helped him or made it more easier to dissociate himself.

It also makes you act more impulsively and have trouble with your memory. An extreme example and one Jeff has experienced atleast one is the alcohol black out. There are two different ones. But the one Jeff had on the night he killed Steven Tuomi where he experienced complete amnesia, often spanning hours, is known as an “en bloc” blackout. With this severe form of blackout, memories of events do not form and typically cannot be recovered. It is as if the events simply never occurred.

In the Shrine, Jeff said this about the black out:
‘I felt complete shock,’ he recalls. ‘Just couldn’t believe it. Shock, horror, panic, I just couldn’t believe it happened again after all those years when I’d done nothing like this.’ He had a terrible hangover, but fought himself to his feet to ponder what could have occurred. First, he dragged the body to the closet and shut it in, out of sight. Then he spent the next five hours pacing up and down the hotel room, smoking cigarettes non-stop, ‘wondering what to do, how to handle the situation’.
‘It’s almost like I temporarily lost control of myself,’ he said. ‘I don’t know what was going through my mind. I have no memory of it. I tried to dredge it up, but I have no memory of it whatsoever.’ They had been drinking rum, but where was the bottle? It was missing. That might mean that he had taken it out and left the door open, that somebody might have peered inside, it might mean anything. He searched everywhere for the bottle. Had he thrown it out of the window? ‘I looked down, went down to the sidewalk under the window, I don’t know what I did with it. Sometime during the night I must have taken the bottle and put it somewhere. I never did find out what happened to it. That scared the hell out of me, haunted me for a long time.’ If he could not remember when he killed Steven, it was evident from the bruises how he had done it. But why? It was put to him years later that to beat a man to death suggested an access of rage. ‘You’re right, you’re right,’ he said. ‘I can’t side-step that. That shocked me in the morning. Where that rage came from or why that happened, I don’t know. I was not conscious of it. Why I had the rage, why I took it out on him, I don’t know. I must have pounded awful hard, because the rib-cage had broken, I could feel the bone. Everything went blank on me.’

Because alcohol makes you act more impulsively, you can also become more agressive. While sober it seemed Jeff could control his anger fairly well. But while being a drunk shit I do believe he had a temper. I think the best example is when he got arrested for disorderly conduct. He was drunk and abusive. He threatened to shoot the bartender because she refused to serve him. She called the police and 4 police officers were needed to hold Jeff down. He spent the night at the police station.
During his years of killing, Jeff continued to drink heavily. I think it’s amazing he never poisoned himself with it. He needed alcohol during the dismemberment of the bodies otherwise he wasn’t able to. I often wonder how much alcohol played a part in Jeff actually acting on his fantasies of killing people to keep them with him.

Jeff himself said during his hearing for the sexual assault case: “I am an alcoholic. Not the sort that has to have a drink every single day, but when I do drink, I go overboard.”

Feel free to share your thoughts with us on this!

Jeff’s hernia operation

On 19 March of 1964 Jeffrey had his double hernia operation. It’s quite a heavy operation, even on an adult, so for a child it could be really traumatic.
Jeff remembers being in the hospital before the surgery and he watched “Bewitched” with several other kids. When Jeff recovered from the anesthesia he was having intense pain in the groin. According to Lionel, his dad, Jeff asked his mother if they cut off his penis. We don’t know what his mom told him and it’s something to think about how much they did to prepare little Jeffrey for such an intense surgery. As an adult and 27 years after the surgery, Jeff told Dr Judith Becker that the pain was so great he thought his genitals must have been cut off.

According to several studies it’s a fact surgery at young age has a high risk at developing traumatic stress reactions. Several other risk factors have been identified, which may guide services in screening those who may be most at risk. These include cases where:

the family are lacking in social support
the child is in the hospital for a longer period
or a parent is suffering with mental health difficulties or high levels of stress.

Joyce, his mom, wrote in her diary that “Jeff was so good in the hospital but he really disliked the doctor after this ordeal.” According to the Shrine of Jeffrey Dahmer, his mom spent as much time as she could with him. At night, Jeff would say to her “You can go home now, mommy. I’ll sleep.”

The pain lasted about a week. He never forget it. Brian Masters wonders, in view of Jeff’s later disturbance and its manifestation, whether this operation was perhaps disproportionately significant in his life. The deep cut in a sensitive area, the exploration of his inside, the feeling that foreign hands were invading his privacy would all find uncomfortable echoes at a later date.
Personally, I think this surgery triggered the start of Jeff’s splanchnophilia.

These uncomfortable echoes could be Jeff’s fascination with “wanting to know how the insides worked”. This started with dissecting roadkill but in a way he also did this later in his life with his victims. About cutting open Jeff’s first victim, Steven Hicks, The Shrine says “In a cruel pitiful echo of the experiments with roadkill, he slit open the belly to see what it looked like inside.” At this point it wasn’t sexual to Jeff yet, more a morbid curiosty. But that would change.
He liked to listen to the noises the bodies made, he would open up his victims, cut off the genitals and he would even put his penis in the viscera to masturbate or rub the organs on his penis. On the polaroids Jeff took of his victims you can see the victims were positioned in a way to show off either their chest or the belly.

Another echo was his obsession with wanting control and complete dominance over a person. The surgery may have left young Jeff with the feeling of being violated. Somebody has touched him, caused him pain in his private area. He felt he had no control over it. Some even think Jeff wasn’t completely sedated by the anesthesia. This would only be a bigger reason for him to feel he had no control over his own life, over what was happening to his body. He made sure later in life that would not happen again. He would be in control even if that meant drugging a person and killing them.

In the Shrine it says: “Suddenly his embryonic autonomy is shattered by a rude invasion; his little powers of decision are roughly withdrawn and he becomes an object in the hands of strangers. His ability to maintain control is undermined, disregarded even perhaps canceled. He experiences ‘loss of control, autonomy and competence’ And he does not know why. Not knowing why, he will wonder and invent. His capacity to handle his emotional reactions to trauma and threat when alone is still very insecure, and his understanding of this, his body, how it works and what one may do with it, is tiny.
Jeff Dahmer’s own imaginings about the insides of people’s bodies began with his hernia operation and the intrusion into his. Control was something lost in infancy and never recovered. With his victims he at last placed himself in the position where he could control not only what happened to them but what happened to their bodies. He could handle their intestines as his had been handled, cut them in the same place as he had been cut, restore himself of that autonomy of which he had been robbed, by stealing theirs. The tactile intimacy of the operation had at the same time mingled the feeling of sexual privilege with that of corporal invasion, which is why he chose to regain control and restore his stolen potency not with his enemies, not through hatred but with a loved object. The combination was disastrous.”

Lionel recalls the operation like this:
“One day in spring of 1964, Jeff began to complain about an area of tenderness in his groin area. This tenderness worsened, and a small bulge appeared in his scrotum. We took him to the doctor right away, and he was subsequently diagnosed as suffering from a double hernia. The doctor explained that the hernia was the result of a birth defect, and that surgery was necessary to correct the problem. Surgery was scheduled for the following week and while Joyce and I stood by, Jeff selected the ragged floppy eared dog he’d slept with since the age of 2 as the stuffed animal he wished to accompany him to the hospital. The operation was performed shortly after and when it was over Jeff was taken to his room, where he remained sedated for several hours. When he awoke, of course, it was to a great deal of pain.
So much pain, I learned later, that he asked Joyce if the doctors had cut off his penis. He remained in the hospital for several days and even after he returned home, his recovery seemed to move forward slowly. For long hours, he remained on the sofa in the living room, his body wrapped in a large, checkered bathrobe. During that period, he moved slowly, ponderously, like an old man. The ebullience which had marked his childhood, his buoyancy and energy drained away. During any period of recovery, of course, a certain flattening of mood could be expected. But in Jeff this flattening began to take on a sense of something permanent. He seemed smaller, somehow more vulnerable, perhaps even sadder than at any time before.”

So I think it’s safe to say his hernia operation had a significant impact on his mental state as a child and later in life. I’m not saying this is the reason why he became a serial killer. But I do think it played a bigger part in it than most people know or realise. And it suprises me how little it is mentioned or taken in consideration in his case. The Shrine continues to come back to it during the story Brian writes but in all the other books I don’t even remember it getting attention, maybe only mentioned briefly.

Sources used:
– The Shrine of Jeffrey Dahmer by Brian Masters
– A Father’s Story by Lionel Dahmer