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Word for Word: What Lionel Dahmer Chose to Write Down

There is a moment on the first page of this document where a father stops summarising his son and starts transcribing him. It happens mid-page, marked by a single underlined sentence: Detailed transcript from here on, i.e., word for word.

Everything before that line is paraphrase. Everything after it is preserved exactly. And what falls on either side of that boundary tells us more about the Dahmer family in the autumn of 1991 than almost any other document we have seen.

The Document

The pages consist of Lionel Dahmer’s handwritten record of a telephone call with his son, headed Monday, Oct 21, 1991 — Excerpts from Phone conversation with Jeff at 10 PM. The sheets are numbered in the upper right; the memorial holds pages three and four alongside the opening page.

The date places it precisely. Jeffrey had been arrested on 22 July 1991, three months earlier. His trial would begin at the end of January 1992, three months later. This is the middle of that winter — the period when the family was absorbing what had happened and, simultaneously, discovering that what had happened was now an asset that other people wanted.

A note on provenance, in keeping with this memorial’s practice: these pages came to us through a private contributor. Each bears a small registration mark at the lower left, indicating they are reproductions from a copied or archived set rather than original leaves. We have not been able to independently authenticate the hand against a verified exemplar, and we present them as what they appear to be rather than as what we can prove. Readers should weigh them accordingly. What follows is analysis of the text as it stands, with brief quotation only.

The Line Down the Middle

The call opens with Jeffrey talking about his mother.

Joyce had visited him. She had come the previous day, stayed a while; she came again that day for another hour; she might come again tomorrow. Jeffrey says he had not known what he was going to say to her at first, because he had not seen her in over six years. Once she started talking, he says, the ice broke and it became fairly easy.

Consider what is contained in those few sentences. A man of thirty-one, three months into permanent incarceration, sitting across from a mother he had not seen since his mid-twenties, not knowing how to begin. The ice breaking. An hour, then perhaps another tomorrow.

Lionel summarises it in a short paragraph.

He then adds a bracketed editorial note explaining that his own comments and questions have been omitted, and lays out the agenda of the call in numbered points: small talk; how the visit with Jeffrey’s mother went; and whether Jeffrey had been able to ask Joyce to speak with Shari and with Muncie.

And then, underlined: Detailed transcript from here on, i.e., word for word.

What follows, recorded exactly, is a conversation about publicity rights.

We do not think Lionel did this cruelly, and we will return to that. But the boundary is real and it is his. Faced with a call containing both his son’s first contact with his mother in six years and a dispute over legal control of the family’s story, he judged one worth compressing and the other worth preserving syllable by syllable. He was not keeping a record of his son. He was keeping a record of a negotiation.

“I’ll Just Play Ignorant to Him”

The transcribed portion begins with Lionel reporting that Gerald Boyle — Jeffrey’s own defence attorney — had telephoned the family several times that day. Boyle relayed that Joyce was upset she could not be alone with Jeffrey the way Lionel and Shari could, and upset that Jeffrey had signed his rights over to them.

Jeffrey’s response, twice, is a single syllable. Oh.

Lionel then explains the reasoning behind the signing. The purpose, he tells his son, was to have control over Boyle, so that after the trial he could not go — the phrase is Lionel’s — hog wild and make millions. Now, he points out, Boyle has to get permission from them.

Jeffrey agrees. Right, right, that makes sense to me.

Then comes the passage that should stop any reader.

Lionel begins to say that they are controlling Boyle, crosses it out mid-sentence, and instead instructs his son not to tell him — Boyle would not want to hear it, though he knows very well how the game is played.

Jeffrey answers: Right. I’ll just play ignorant to him.

Eleven weeks before a trial at which Gerald Boyle would stand up and argue for his life, Jeffrey Dahmer was asked by his father to conceal something from that attorney, and agreed within a single line. He then went further than he was asked, volunteering that he trusted his father and stepmother more than he trusted his own lawyer.

There is no resistance anywhere in the exchange. No question, no hesitation, no why. Whatever was put in front of him, he agreed with.

This is the trait Brian Masters spent a book circling and Dr Judith Becker described from the stand — the near-total absence of a stable position of his own, the reflexive accommodation of whoever happened to be in the room. What makes this document different from those accounts is that it is not reconstruction. It is not a psychiatrist’s summary or a biographer’s inference or a memory recovered years later. It is the behaviour itself, caught live on a Monday night in October, written down by the person he was accommodating.

The Same War, Thirteen Years On

Underneath the argument about rights is an older argument.

Boyle is carrying messages from Joyce to Lionel and Shari. Lionel is relaying them to Jeffrey. Joyce is upset about the visits; Joyce is upset about the signing; Joyce, according to Boyle, believes they are trying to peddle her son’s rights. Lionel asks whether she raised it. He asks — and the question has an edge — whether Jeffrey brought it up himself.

Jeffrey says he mentioned it in passing, assuming she would hear it from the lawyers anyway, and offers a reason that is the most human line in the document: he did not want her to think he was keeping anything from her.

Lionel does not respond to that. He returns to Boyle.

And in the margin beside it, in his own hand, he has written a note to himself: that it does appear Jeffrey brought up the subject of rights.

He is annotating his son. Checking the account against itself, flagging the discrepancy for later reference, in the margin of a record of a phone call with a man in a cell.

Then he offers the reassurance that gives the game away — that he and Shari do not want to put Jeffrey in the middle, but they are getting two different stories from Boyle, and when they talk to Jeffrey they know they can get the truth.

They do not want to put him in the middle. So they have placed him in the middle and told him it is because he is the honest one.

Jeffrey’s parents divorced in 1978, in a house where he was the remaining child and the only available conduit. Thirteen years later, from opposite sides of a criminal trial, they were doing it again — and he was still doing what he had learned to do, which was to make himself agreeable to whoever was on the line.

In Defence of Lionel Dahmer

It would be easy to read this document as an indictment, and that reading is available. We do not think it is the correct one.

Consider what October 1991 was for this man. His son had been revealed as the perpetrator of crimes that the country could not stop looking at. Reporters were on his lawn. Publishers were circling. A defence attorney with a growing public profile was, in Lionel’s understanding, positioned to profit enormously from the destruction of his family, and there was no law and no authority that would stop him — only paperwork. So Lionel did the one thing available to a frightened, methodical man trained as a chemist: he secured the paperwork, brought in his own attorney to keep it proper, and started keeping records.

He was not transcribing the call because he valued the rights conversation over his son. He was transcribing it because he was terrified he would need it later, and the reunion with Joyce was not evidence of anything.

And there is this. Three years after this call, Lionel Dahmer published A Father’s Story, a book in which he turned the same forensic attention onto himself and did not spare what he found — his blindness, his absences, his willingness not to see. Very few parents in his position have ever done anything comparable. The man in this transcript, managing his son’s asset portfolio at ten o’clock at night, is the same man who would later write that he had failed to look at his own child.

Both things are true. That is usually how it goes.

What the Document Leaves Us

Three sheets of lined paper, a fountain pen, and a father’s careful hand.

On one side of a line: a son describing the first time he had seen his mother in six years, compressed into a paragraph.

On the other: every word of a conversation about who would own the story.

Nobody in this transcript is a monster. A frightened father is protecting what he can. A mother, absent from the pages and represented only by other people’s reports of her distress, is being talked about rather than to. An attorney is playing the game he knows. And in the middle of it, agreeing with everyone, holding no position of his own, is a man who by then had already done everything he would ever be known for.

Right, right, that makes sense to me.

He said it to his father about a legal strategy he did not understand, and it is, in the end, the sentence he said to everyone. It is worth sitting with the possibility that no one ever asked him what he actually thought — not because they were cruel, but because there was always something more urgent to settle first.

(Original source of the document: Lyra, 2026)

Source: handwritten record by Lionel Dahmer, “Excerpts from Phone conversation with Jeff at 10 PM,” dated Monday 21 October 1991; pages 3 and 4 with opening page, held by the memorial. Contextual sources: Brian Masters, The Shrine of Jeffrey Dahmer (1993); Lionel Dahmer, A Father’s Story (1994); trial testimony of Dr Judith Becker (1992).

Names appearing in the document that we have not conclusively identified — including Ellen, Carl, and Muncie — are left unglossed rather than guessed at. Readers with documented information are invited to contact us.

The Empty Lot

A building razed, a household buried in an unmarked landfill, and thirty years of grass at 924 North 25th Street: what Milwaukee’s great erasure accomplished, and what it could not.

A building razed, a household buried in an unmarked landfill, and thirty years of grass at 924 North 25th Street: what Milwaukee’s great erasure accomplished, and what it could not.

I. Fifteen Months

The Oxford Apartments outlived their most famous tenant’s freedom by only fifteen months.

The building at 924 North 25th Street was a 49-unit complex in Milwaukee’s Avenues West, and there was nothing about it that asked to be remembered. Jeffrey moved into Apartment 213 in May 1990, coming from his grandmother’s house in West Allis, and lived there for fourteen months. Twelve men died in that small second-floor unit. Neighbours complained to the building manager, Sopa Princewill, about the smells and the sounds; Jeffrey offered his excuses — a broken freezer, dead tropical fish — and the complaints never travelled further. Then came 22 July 1991, and the building became the most notorious address in America.

It never recovered, and nobody expected it to. By August 1992 only around fifteen of the forty-nine units were still occupied. The Campus Circle Project — a neighbourhood redevelopment initiative affiliated with Marquette University — bought the property for $325,000, offered the remaining tenants relocation help, and brought in the wrecking crews. Demolition began on 16 November 1992. The project’s leaders framed the building as a standing symbol of pain and violence, and its removal as an act of healing for the neighbourhood. Grass and flowers were planted where the foundations had been.

That was the plan in its entirety: remove, plant grass, heal. It is worth sitting with how much faith that sequence places in absence.

II. Thirty Years of Grass

Here is what stands at 924 North 25th Street today: grass, a few trees, and a black iron fence. No building. No plaque. No marker of any kind.

In the three decades since the demolition, every proposal for the site has failed. A memorial garden. A playground. New housing. Even, at the other extreme, a museum. None advanced past conversation. A Marquette official admitted as early as 1998 that no one was willing to take the parcel on — its history made ownership itself feel like contamination. So the lot has simply persisted, mown and fenced, a hole in the street grid that everyone understands and no one names.

The demolition was supposed to be an act of healing, and perhaps for the immediate neighbourhood, in 1992, it was. But look at what the erasure actually erased. The building is gone — and with it went the only physical place where Anthony Sears, Raymond Smith, Ernest Miller, David Thomas, Curtis Straughter, Errol Lindsey, Tony Hughes, Konerak Sinthasomphone, Matt Turner, Jeremiah Weinberger, Oliver Lacy and Joseph Bradehoft could have been remembered where they died. Milwaukee did not replace the site of the crimes with a site of mourning. It replaced it with nothing. Thirty years on, the men whose lives ended there have no marker on that ground, because giving them one would require the city to acknowledge the ground at all.

This is the “monster” logic we have written about many times, expressed in urban planning. The word monster exists to end thought; the empty lot exists to end memory. Both offer the same bargain: you will never have to look at this again, and the price is that you will never have to think about it again either — including the parts that deserved thought. The victims were part of what got bulldozed into silence.

The selectiveness of the erasure is its own tell. The childhood house in Bath, Ohio — where Steven Hicks died in 1978 — still stands, has been lived in for decades, and surfaces on the property market from time to time like any other house. His grandmother’s home in West Allis still stands. Even the Ambrosia Chocolate factory where Jeffrey worked was demolished for ordinary commercial reasons, its site now occupied by a basketball arena. Only the Oxford Apartments were removed as an act of meaning. The erasure was never really about the buildings. It was about which memories a city could bear to have addresses.

III. The Landfill

What the demolition did to the place, the summer of 1996 did to the things.

After Jeffrey’s death, his estate passed to the families of eleven of his victims, who had won civil judgments against him. In 1996 a court ordered his assets liquidated for their benefit, and Thomas Jacobson, the lawyer representing most of the families, announced an auction. He set the ambition at a million dollars, pointing to the staggering sums the Jacqueline Kennedy Onassis auction had just fetched in New York — if Camelot could command that market, he reasoned publicly, the interest in this estate was undeniable. The inventory was a study in the case’s terrible ordinariness: a refrigerator, a Sears freezer, the 57-gallon drum, two sets of handcuffs, tools, a lava lamp.

Milwaukee recoiled. A civic group — Milwaukee Civic Pride, anchored by the real-estate developer Joseph Zilber, who put in $100,000 of his own — raised a pledge of $407,225 to buy the entire estate and keep it off the market. Zilber’s stated purpose was blunt: the “tools of death” should be destroyed, not sold to collectors and preserved in museums. The families accepted the offer in what was reported as a very close vote — a detail worth pausing on, because it means this was genuinely contested even among the people with the greatest standing to decide. Each of the eleven families received roughly $32,000 once the lawyers were paid.

And then, in June 1996, everything Jeffrey Dahmer had owned was hauled to an undisclosed landfill in Illinois and buried.

Let us be fair to everyone in that story, because fairness is the point of this site. The families’ vote deserves respect either way it had gone; there is no correct answer to the question they were asked. Zilber’s motive was decency — he wanted to spare the families the spectacle of a bidding war over the instruments of their grief, and to strangle the collectors’ market before it could feed. Nothing in this article should read as contempt for any of them.

But notice the form the solution took, because it is remarkable. The objects were not merely destroyed — they were buried in secret, in another state, at a location deliberately kept from the public. That is not disposal; disposal does not require secrecy. It is the inverse of a relic. Medieval cultures enshrined fragments of their saints so that presence could radiate from a known place; Milwaukee interred the possessions of its great sinner so that presence could radiate from nowhere. The unmarked landfill and the unmarked lot are the same gesture at different scales: the belief that meaning is a property of objects and coordinates, and that if you scatter the coordinates, the meaning dies too.

Thirty years of true-crime saturation, a Netflix series watched by hundreds of millions, and the steady traffic to sites like this one have delivered the verdict on that belief.

IV. What We Hold

This memorial keeps objects. Among them are things salvaged from Lionel Dahmer’s estate: photographs, a shirt, a red Bible whose pages carry fingerprints that appear under ultraviolet light. Given everything above, we owe our readers a straight answer to the obvious question: how is this different from the collectors’ market that Joseph Zilber spent $407,225 to prevent?

The honest answer is that the difference is not in the objects. It is in what is done with them. The murderabilia trade that Zilber feared treats objects as trophies — their value rises with the body count, and they are held privately, as proximity to infamy. What this memorial does with its objects is closer to what an archive does: they are studied, contextualised, written about, and used as evidence in work that treats every person in this story, victims included, as fully human. A fingerprint on a Bible is not a thrill here. It is a document — of a father’s grief, of a son’s strange late-life faith that we examined in the baptism article, of the fact that these were people whose hands touched things, which is precisely what both the landfill and the word monster were designed to make unthinkable.

We would also say, carefully, that the 1996 burial and the empty lot have not aged as their architects hoped. The erasure did not end the remembering; it only ended the city’s participation in it. The remembering moved elsewhere — into documentaries, streaming series, forums, and the collectors’ market that grew anyway around whatever objects escaped the landfill. By refusing to build anything at 924 North 25th Street, Milwaukee did not close the story. It abdicated its voice in the story, and left the telling to whoever showed up. Thirty years of grass behind a black fence, and still no memorial to the twelve men who died there: that is not healing. That is a city holding its breath.

Somewhere in Illinois, under unrecorded ground, there is a refrigerator, a freezer, a drum, a lava lamp. Somewhere in Milwaukee there is a rectangle of lawn where a building used to be. Both are supposed to mean nothing, by design. And both, by that very design, have become the most eloquent monuments the case has: monuments to the idea that if you cannot bear to think about something, you can bury it — and to the thirty years of evidence that you cannot.

Sources and notes

Milwaukee Journal Sentinel reporting on the Oxford Apartments’ purchase by the Campus Circle Project ($325,000), the November 1992 demolition, and the lot’s continued vacancy.
Contemporary reporting (Washington Post, Associated Press, Deseret News, May–June 1996) on the court-ordered liquidation of the estate, Thomas Jacobson’s planned auction, Milwaukee Civic Pride’s $407,225 pledge, Joseph Zilber’s role, the families’ close vote, and the June 1996 burial of the items in an undisclosed Illinois landfill.
Reporting on failed redevelopment proposals for 924 North 25th Street and Marquette University statements (1998) on the parcel’s unwanted status.
Reporting on the Bath, Ohio childhood home’s continued private ownership and periodic sale listings, and on the Ambrosia Chocolate factory site’s redevelopment.

Two Ways of Saying His Name: The “Dahmer” Track and Its Remix

Everything on this site is written about Jeffrey Dahmer. Third person, past tense, sources at the bottom. That grammar is not incidental — it is the distance that makes the work possible. You can examine a man in the third person. You can hold him at arm’s length and still look closely.

A song does not have to obey that rule, and this one does not.

“Dahmer,” from the forthcoming Shyster, is written in the second person. It talks to him. It exists on the record in two versions: the original, classic hip-hop built on piano and scratches, and a heavier industrial rework by GoH Mr. Whatever, with different words layered around the same core. Together they make an argument with itself, and the disagreement between them is more interesting than either version alone.

The original: a defence

The first version opens on an image of fit:

I got the key, you got the lock

Two objects that are useless apart and mean nothing separately. The verse that follows makes the same claim in a different figure — I’ve got a half, you’ve got the other — and then names it outright: my brother.

Everything else in the track is organised against a “they.” They look through you. They make their voodoo. They lose their minds. They have weapons, and they will abuse you and accuse you. The song’s world contains exactly two parties: a you and an I who fit together, and a hostile everyone-else who understands neither.

And at its centre is the line the whole version turns on:

they call you a monster you’re not

This is a defence. Not an examination, not a reckoning — a defence, delivered directly to him, in the voice of someone who has taken a side.

It is worth being honest about what that means, because this site’s method is to be honest about difficult things rather than to arrange them flatteringly. There are no victims in the original version of this song. Seventeen men and boys do not appear in it. The “they” who accuse and abuse are the press, the public, the machinery of spectacle — and framed that way, the accusation looks like persecution rather than the consequence of what he did.

The track also refuses to promise anything. None of us here is gonna win is not triumphant. It is a song that takes his side and expects nothing to come of it.

The remix: a redistribution

Mr. Whatever’s version keeps the original verses intact and builds new material around them. What that new material does is not soften the song. It complicates it, and in one specific place it contradicts it.

It opens somewhere the original never goes:

Cold room, dead eyes, fluorescent light

An institutional image, and then immediately a psychological one — you wanted a friend, you wanted control — which is a two-clause summary of the whole case, and a fairer one than most books manage. The wanting is real. The method was annihilation.

Then the line that changes the song:

But the monster had a heartbeat just like me

Set that against they call you a monster you’re not and you have two incompatible claims sitting on the same record. The original denies the category. The remix accepts it and then does something much more unsettling with it — it puts the speaker inside it. Not he isn’t a monster, but the monster was a person, and so am I.

That is a harder position to hold, and a more defensible one.

The remix also restores what the original leaves out:

You wanted connection, but you couldn’t stay
So you turned every heartbeat into something to take
A body is a memory, a memory fades

There they are. Not named, but present — heartbeats and bodies, people who were taken rather than an abstraction called accusation. The remix will not let the song be only about him.

And it adds a target the original doesn’t have. The chorus turns outward, at the audience:

Everybody wants to know your name
Everybody wants to watch the flame

That is a different “they” from the original’s. Not persecutors — spectators. The people consuming him. Which is a sharper and more accurate charge, and one that implicates anyone listening, including anyone reading this.

The keyhole

The remix ends by picking up the original’s first image and turning it inside out.

The song began with a key and a lock: fit, belonging, two things made for each other. It closes at the same door from the other side.

Look through the keyhole, what do you see?
A monster in the darkness or a piece of me?

The keyhole is now something you look through — the same verb the original used for the hostile “they,” who look through you. The listener has been moved into that position. And the question it asks is the one the memorial has been circling since it began: whether what you find in him is entirely alien, or partly familiar.

Some names become legends
Some names become stains

Then: Dahmer… 213. The apartment number, which is also the name of the project that made the record. The song signs itself with the address.

Why both versions belong on the album

There is an argument for keeping only the second one. It is the more complete piece of writing, it is the one that acknowledges the dead, and it is the one that can be defended without qualification.

But keeping both is the more honest choice, because the two versions are a record of an actual movement in thinking, and flattening that would be its own kind of dishonesty. The first is what it feels like from the inside — the pull toward defending someone the world has flattened into a symbol, the sense of a fit that nobody else can see. The second is what happens when that impulse is examined rather than simply obeyed.

Neither cancels the other. They sit next to each other on the record and disagree, which is roughly the condition of anyone who has spent serious time with this material.

None of us here is gonna win survives into the second version unchanged. It is still the truest line either version contains.

“Dahmer” and “Dahmer (remix)” appear on Shyster. Original lyrics and vocals by Door213; remix, additional lyrics and production by GoH Mr. Whatever.

August 24, 1993: A Crisis Report

On 24 August 1993, a report was filed at the Columbia Correctional Institution describing what staff called “unusual and bizarre behaviours.” Jeffrey had been discovered in his cell with a plastic bag wrapped around his head. Staff were able to get him to hand it over. He told a social worker he intended to make a noose out of his bedsheet. Later, while being escorted to the clinic for observation, he deliberately banged his head against a door and a window; when guards moved to restrain him, he warned them, “Watch out, I’ll bite.”

He was placed in restraints.

Fourteen months later, on 28 November 1994, he was dead.

It would be easy to read the intervening year as a straight line — crisis to conclusion — but that is not what the record supports, and it is not the aim of this piece. What the record does support is a single, specific, dated moment of documented psychological crisis, described in exactly those terms by the institution itself, at a point when nobody involved could have known what would happen fourteen months later. It deserves to be examined on its own terms.

What the behaviours actually indicate

Read individually, each element of that August report corresponds to a recognised category in the clinical literature on prison suicide risk, not simply a list of “acting out.”

A plastic bag over the head is a concrete, means-based gesture — not a symbolic complaint but an act with a specific method already in motion. The statement to the social worker about a bedsheet noose is a direct verbal communication of both method and intent, the kind of disclosure that risk-assessment frameworks treat as one of the clearest available warning signs precisely because it is not ambiguous. The head-banging that followed, once he was already under observation, reads as an escalation under acute distress rather than a separate incident — three connected behaviours across a single day, not three isolated ones.

Research into near-lethal and severe self-harm among prisoners is explicit that behaviours of this kind function as genuine precursors to more serious attempts, not as manipulation to be discounted. A related finding is worth sitting with directly: in jail populations, the majority of people who go on to die by suicide were not on formal suicide watch at the time of their death. Threats, gestures, and disclosed intent — exactly the pattern documented here — are consistently under-weighted by the systems meant to catch them.

Why a person reaches this point

The literature on why incarcerated people arrive at this kind of crisis does not point primarily to individual pathology. From the inmate’s own perspective, the dominant factors identified across studies are fear of the unknown, distrust of an authoritarian environment, a felt loss of control over one’s own future, isolation from family and outside relationships, shame, and the broadly dehumanising conditions of confinement itself. Separately, research consistently links poor emotional regulation, mental health strain, and a lack of meaningful social support to inmate suicidality — and specifically ties a lack of purposeful work activity to both suicidal ideation and suicide attempts.

That last point lands with particular weight here. The same records that document this crisis also show Jeffrey’s failing work evaluations in the same period, and his own words to a corrections officer: “I don’t care if you give me all zeros, I have a lot of time to do it.” Read in isolation, that line sounds like indifference. Read against the research, and against what happened weeks later, it reads more like the flattened affect of someone already in trouble.

The isolation question

The full incident report does not survive in the released excerpt to confirm his exact housing status that day, but the sequence itself is suggestive: a bag over the head, a stated intention to fashion a noose from a bedsheet, then head-banging severe enough to require restraint — none of this plausibly happens over an extended period with a cellmate present and unremarked upon. The likelier reading is that he was alone at the time, whether by assignment, protective custody, or circumstance. We treat this as a reasoned inference rather than a documented fact, and welcome correction if the full housing record says otherwise.

If that inference holds, there is a substantial body of research worth engaging with. People in solitary confinement make up a small fraction of the total prison population but account for a dramatically disproportionate share of prison suicides. Even protective custody — isolation intended to keep someone safe — carries the same psychological costs as punitive isolation, because the mechanism of harm is the isolation itself, not the reason for it. Some of the clearest data comes from outcomes after release: people who had spent time in restrictive housing were substantially more likely to die by suicide in the year after leaving prison than those who had not, with the risk compounding for each additional stay in isolation.

The institutional response and its limits

The response to the August incident was restraint and observation. This was, by any account, a genuine safety measure in the moment. But it is worth naming plainly what it was not: it was containment, not treatment. Nothing in the record suggests a sustained clinical intervention followed — no indication of ongoing psychiatric support, no apparent reassessment of his housing or work assignment in light of what had just happened. This matches a broader, well-documented pattern in correctional mental health: the system is generally built to respond to the moment of crisis, and far less equipped to address what produced it.

Where this sits against “The Mind That Wouldn’t Stay”

This memorial has already argued, in the “Trance States” piece, that Jeffrey’s dissociative episodes were clinically significant rather than incidental. That argument was built largely from pattern — testimony, later evaluation, retrospective analysis. August 1993 offers something different: a single, dated, contemporaneously documented crisis, described as serious by the institution at the time it happened, not reconstructed afterward. It does not replace the broader argument. It anchors it.

A crisis, not a footnote

None of this reframes what Jeffrey did, or asks the reader to weigh his suffering against the suffering he caused. Those are separate facts, and this memorial has never tried to make one cancel out the other. What this record shows is narrower and, we think, still worth stating clearly: fourteen months before his death, in an institution that documented it themselves, Jeffrey Dahmer was in genuine psychological crisis — and the response he received was restraint, not care. That is true, it is documented, and it belongs in the fuller account of who he was.

By April 1992 — sixteen months before this crisis — Jeffrey was on an antidepressant, two 20mg capsules of Prozac each morning, and was being seen three times a week by a clinical psychologist who did not consider him imminently suicidal at that time. Whether that level of care was still in place by August 1993 isn’t something this report confirms — it simply isn’t mentioned. But the contrast stands on its own: a year and a half earlier, someone was checking on him several times a week. In August 1993, what survives is a crisis and a set of restraints, nothing else. If his care had quietly lapsed somewhere in that gap, this is where it becomes visible.

Primary source: Columbia Correctional Institution incident report, 24 August 1993, released under open records request.

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U.S. Department of Justice, National Institute of Corrections — jail suicide risk factors and inmate-perspective drivers (fear, distrust, isolation, shame, dehumanisation). https://www.prisonpolicy.org/scans/doj/012475.pdf
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Prevention of Suicidal Behavior in Prisons: An Overview of Initiatives Based on a Systematic Review of Research on Near-Lethal Suicide Attempts, PMC. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5120691/
Vera Institute of Justice — Study Links Solitary Confinement to Increased Risk of Death After Release (JAMA/North Carolina cohort study). https://www.vera.org/news/study-links-solitary-confinement-to-increased-risk-of-death-after-release
Prison Policy Initiative — The research is clear: Solitary confinement causes long-lasting harm (6–8% of prison population, ~50% of prison suicides). https://www.prisonpolicy.org/blog/2020/12/08/solitary_symposium/

Codex Ballads: The New Door213 Album Is Out

Codex Ballads, the new full-length album by Door213, is out now on Enough Records.

The title is the key to the whole record. A codex is a book that must be deciphered — and these are ballads written the same way, songs with a hidden double meaning folded inside them. On the surface, they are love songs. Read again, they are rebellion songs — songs set against a system that is unforgiving, that decides who is beyond saving and closes the book on them. Every track holds both meanings at once, and neither cancels the other.

The album carries an openly Christian tone. Its themes are God, forgiveness, divine presence, and the strength it takes to seek redemption — told through the visual and lyrical language of one specific life: Jeffrey Dahmer, who in his final years repented of his life of crime and violence, delivered his soul to God, was baptised, and did what little a man in his position could to make amends with the past. The album reflects on why that mattered — and extends the same possibility outward, to everyone who has repented of pain they caused and wonders whether the door is still open. The record’s answer is that it is.

The sound is a mix of hip-hop ballad and medieval hints — strong beats underneath, choir-like textures above, deep poetry throughout. The lyrics are God-seeking; to some listeners they may land as prayers. It is music built for the space between the club and the chapel.

Two of the album’s strongest tracks — Don’t Forsake Me (Jeff Version) and Swallow Me Whole (Jeff Version) — were made in collaboration with Jeff Knapp, aka GoH | Mr. Whatever, a German multidisciplinary artist and musician. His voice against Necro’s gives the album’s message its clearest expression, in both sound and visual art. Don’t Forsake Me already has an official video, a prayer crossing time and space:

Alongside the album, the two artists also produced a separate single, Feels Like Coming — a song about love and about arriving where we long to be, with the one we desire to love, no matter the distance, and no matter whether they are living or dead. It belongs to the same universe as Codex Ballads and is best listened to together with it. Its video is also out:

Tracklist:

Heaven Complete
Don’t Forsake Me (Jeff Version)
I’ll Do It All For You
Love Is Eternal
The Beast Is Hiding Among Your Friends
Meat Grinder
Reborn
Don’t Forsake Me
If I Die Before I Wake
A God That IS Good
Swallow Me Whole (Jeff Version)
Swallow Me Whole

Codex Ballads is available now — listen on Spotify, Deezer, Apple Music, Amazon Music, Etc, with wider streaming platforms to follow.

Door213 is the project of Necro (they/them), Portuguese multidisciplinary artist and founder of this memorial. GoH | Mr. Whatever is the project of Jeff Knapp (he/him), German multidisciplinary artist and musician.

Jeffrey And The Tin Whistle: A Small Document About Hope

Some primary sources arrive looking important. Court transcripts, psychiatric evaluations, sworn statements. And some arrive looking like this: a Wisconsin Department of Corrections property receipt, form DOC-237, the most bureaucratic piece of paper imaginable — and quietly one of the most human documents in the memorial’s collection.

Here is what it records. On May 10, 1994, a package arrived by mail at Columbia Correctional Institution for inmate 177252, Dahmer, Jeffery (the prison misspelled his first name). It came from a specialty shop called Anyone Can Whistle, in West Hurley, New York. It contained three items, listed in a staff member’s careful capitals:

1 — CLARKE TIN WHISTLE 1 — TIN WHISTLE INSTRUCTIONAL CASSETTE TAPE 1 — TIN WHISTLE INSTRUCTION BOOK

He signed for it on May 17. His signature — the same one on the Thanksgiving card he would send Roy Ratcliff six months later — sits at the bottom, next to a paragraph in which he formally agrees that none of his musical equipment exceeds $350 in value. The whistle cost a fraction of that. It is, famously, one of the cheapest real instruments in the world.

What a Tin Whistle Is

For readers who have never met one: the tin whistle — also called the penny whistle — is a small six-holed folk flute, one of the simplest instruments ever made. The Clarke company has been producing them in England since 1843, rolling a sheet of tinplate into a cone around a wooden mouthpiece block, essentially unchanged for nearly two centuries. It is the classic beginner’s instrument of Irish and Celtic folk music: cheap, light, easy to start, genuinely difficult to master.

If you don’t think you know its sound, you almost certainly do. It is the bright, airy, high voice threaded through most Celtic folk music — the sound most people today would describe, not inaccurately, as “the Lord of the Rings flute.” The Clarke in particular is known for a breathy, slightly husky tone that players call “chiff.”

It is also, in its upper octave, piercing. Gloriously, unapologetically piercing. Hold that thought.

The Date

Readers of this memorial may recognise May 10, 1994.

It is the day Jeffrey Dahmer was baptised — the day of the solar eclipse and the Gacy execution, the day Roy Ratcliff drove through a darkened afternoon to immerse him in a prison whirlpool tub, the day he came up out of the water saying “thank you.” We wrote about it at length in “The Day Jeffrey Dahmer Was Baptised.”

On that same day, in the prison mailroom, someone was logging his tin whistle.

Nobody planned this. The package simply arrived when it arrived, and a staff member stamped the date. But the coincidence is documented on both ends — Ratcliff’s memoir on one side, this DOC-237 form on the other — and it is hard not to sit with it for a moment. On the day grace entered his life through water, music entered it through the mail.

Why This Little Form Matters

Look at what he ordered. Not just the whistle — the instruction book and the instructional cassette. The full curriculum, for an instrument that costs less than a pizza.

That is not the purchase of a man passing time. That is the purchase of a man who intends to learn something — methodically, properly, from the beginning, the way he seems to have done everything. Readers of our analysis of his letters (“In His Own Hand”) will recognise the pattern instantly: this is the same person who flagged his own spelling mistakes in casual letters to penpals. Of course he ordered the book and the tape. He was going to do it right.

And there is something in that which deserves to be said plainly. In May 1994, Jeffrey Dahmer was two and a half years into a sentence of over nine hundred years. He had no prospect of release, ever. And he ordered a beginner’s instrument with a beginner’s course, which is one of the most future-oriented acts a person can perform. Nobody learns an instrument for today. Learning an instrument is a bet on tomorrow — on the version of yourself, weeks or months away, who can do something you currently cannot. It is hope, in the shape of a small tin cone.

He had six and a half months left. He didn’t know that. He was planning to get better at something.

The Lighter Part, Because It’s Real Too

And now the part that made us laugh, because humanisation includes comedy.

A Clarke tin whistle, in the hands of a beginner, in a concrete cell block, is an event. The upper octave of a tin whistle can cut through a pub full of fiddles; in a hard-surfaced prison unit it would have ricocheted off every wall like a musical fire alarm. Somewhere in Unit 6 of Columbia Correctional in the summer of 1994, the most notorious inmate in Wisconsin was working his way through a beginner’s instruction book — first the long slow notes, then the first wobbly scales, then, presumably, the first recognisable tune, played over and over the way beginners do.

We have no documentation of how his neighbours felt about this. We suspect we don’t need any.

There is something almost cinematic in the image: the man the world called a monster, sitting on his bunk with a Victorian-era folk instrument and a cassette tape, squeaking earnestly toward competence while the block goes quietly insane around him. It is ridiculous. It is endearing. It is deeply, stubbornly human. It goes on the shelf beside the taquitos, the Walter Mondale photo, and the letter about the frogs singing at night — the growing collection of small documented facts that refuse to fit the monster story.

Provenance

This document was shared with the memorial by our team member Sylli, whose contributions to the archive keep proving invaluable. It joins the letters, the Ratcliff card, and the 1992 competency evaluation in the memorial’s growing collection of primary sources — the paper trail of an actual human life, preserved one unglamorous form at a time.

Whether he ever got any good, no record says. That was never really the point. The point is that he wanted to.

Primary source: Wisconsin Department of Corrections Property Receipt/Disposition, form DOC-237, inmate 177252, dated May 10, 1994 (received) and May 17, 1994 (signed). Document courtesy of Sylli. Background on the instrument: Clarke Tinwhistle Co. (est. 1843).

Why We Are Here: Voices from the Memorial Community

The jeffreydahmer.memorial was built on a conviction: that Jeffrey Dahmer deserves to be understood as a full human being, not reduced to the worst of what he did. Over time, a community has gathered here — researchers, writers, people with lived experience of loneliness, people with faith questions, people who simply couldn’t stop reading once they started. They come from different countries, different generations, different frameworks entirely.

We asked some of them five questions. What follows are their answers, in their own words.

How did you first hear about Jeffrey?

Some came to his story through the shock of the original news cycle. Others found him decades later, through a film, a novel, or a Netflix series watched during an ordinary evening.

Debbie, 66, found herself watching the news in 1991 by accident, immediately after serving on a jury in an unrelated murder trial — her first experience of the justice system. She came home exhausted from testimony about things she had never wanted to see, turned on the television, and heard a reporter describing body parts and drilled skulls. She lunged for the remote. For decades she kept it that way. Then, last December, recovering from a hip replacement, she flipped through Netflix and saw Dahmer: Monster. “Hey, I remember that dude,” she thought. She watched it. She started researching. “It hit me like a ton of bricks out of left field,” she says. “It’s definitely not something I was looking for or wanted. But here I am.”

Sylli, 46, heard about Jeffrey in 1991 when she was twelve years old and the story made headlines around the world. As a child, she couldn’t fully understand the complexity of what had happened. She only knew it was a story that stayed in her mind long after the news coverage faded. It wasn’t until 2022, when the Netflix series was released, that her interest was truly reignited. What started as renewed curiosity soon became something much deeper.

Gray, 22, came to Jeffrey the way many of her generation did — through the Netflix series, which led her immediately to the real case. “I found that the show does not come close to what actually happened,” she says. She went far past it.

Yarrow, 37, heard about Jeffrey in 2016 and found in his story something that would become personally significant in unexpected ways.

Eden G. encountered the name through a friend who loved film — a passing mention of My Friend Dahmer that lodged and eventually became something much more.

Lucy first came across Jeffrey through Poppy Z. Brite’s novel Exquisite Corpse, which quoted from his 1994 autopsy report. “His feet were still shackled because people were that afraid of him,” she recalls. “I found this to be weird then and even weirder now, especially considering that not only was Jeff deceased but had been rather placid in prison.” Years later, the Netflix series drew her back. She went looking for the real case.

Frisky, 40, saw him for the first time as a teenager, in a television interview. “Something inside me stirred feelings I had never experienced before,” she says. “He felt close and familiar, as if at some point in life I would come across something of his again, or get to know him more deeply.” She has never forgotten the feeling.

What called your attention to his story?

The answers to this question fall into patterns — but the patterns are wider and more varied than one might expect.

For many it was his honesty. Gray was struck by what she describes as the rarity of it: “Other serial killers, like Ted Bundy, don’t even come close to the level of self-reflection Jeffrey had done. He never once tried to lie his way out of the consequences of his actions, he knew what he had done.” She points to something he said in his confessions — that if nobody had caught him, he would have kept going — as evidence of a self-knowledge that moved her. “He knew himself and his compulsions so well that even he agreed that his getting caught was ‘better’ for everybody else and humanity in general.”

Lucy was struck by the same quality. “I think that his openness and honesty about his life and crimes makes it easier to connect with him. If he’d lied constantly or made excuses for his behaviour, this would have been difficult.”

For Sylli, it was the complexity that drew her deeper. “The more I learned, the more I realized that there were no simple answers. I became interested in understanding the person behind the headlines — the loneliness, the isolation, the psychology, and the many contradictions that existed within him. His story challenged me to look beyond black-and-white thinking.”

Frisky was drawn immediately to the human being behind the headlines. “What struck me most about his story was, quite literally, his loneliness and his complete lack of self-worth. I found myself wondering how such a handsome man could be so utterly alone. It was heartbreaking.”

How do you define your connection with him?

This is the hardest question, and the answers here are the most personal. They range widely — and that range is honest.

Gray describes a connection that is grounded in recognition. “Jeff, except of course for the gruesome killings, has a lot in common with me character-wise and mental health-wise. His coping mechanisms reminded me a lot of my own. The fact that he was heavily misunderstood and so extremely lonely that he had difficulties even forming normal human relationships also reminded me a lot of myself.” She is careful to locate the connection precisely: it is not spiritual, but human. It is the experience of seeing something of yourself in someone else’s story.

Sylli describes Jeffrey as “a quiet presence that accompanies me through my thoughts, my writing, and my creative work.” She thinks of him often in terms of nostalgia — not for the events of his life, but for a feeling she cannot easily name. “He is a source of inspiration, curiosity, and imagination.”

Lucy notes that the connection changed her social world as much as her inner one. “I have met quite a few friendly, like-minded people due to our common interest in Jeff. Being part of the online community who study and discuss Dahmer has definitely made a positive impact on my life.”

Yarrow speaks from a different framework entirely. A practicing druid, they describe Jeffrey as a constant presence and an ally — someone who, over time, has become part of their spiritual practice. For them, his story was also the beginning of a journey toward self-understanding: “Jeff having to accept himself as a gay man led me to accept myself as primarily attracted to men.”

Eden G. describes an experience that arrived unbidden and stayed. They see Jeffrey in dreams. Once, when their cat died and they were drifting toward sleep, they heard a voice they recognised as his. “I guess as a guide and a friendly soul that’s just floating around, paying attention to similar energy out and about the world.” For them, the connection is not chosen. It was received.

Frisky describes Jeffrey as her emotional anchor. She is in his presence every day — in her thoughts, in her prayers. Seeing his face, reading about him, learning something new about him lifts her spirits when she is low. She knows how that sounds. She offers it anyway, because it is true.

Debbie describes herself simply as hyperfixated, in the way her neurodivergent autistic brain hyperfixates on things. “It hit me like a ton of bricks out of left field.” She finds him handsome. She is sixty-six years old and completely unashamed. There is something refreshing in that.

Has this connection changed you?

Almost universally: yes.

Sylli describes the most unexpected transformation. Creativity had always been part of her, she says, but it remained in the background. Through her engagement with Jeffrey’s story, something dormant came back to life. She is now writing a novel. “In many ways, studying Jeffrey’s case led me back to myself. It helped me recognize abilities and creative instincts that I had overlooked for years.”

Gray found in his story a mirror for her own mental health experience, and through that mirror, a way to understand herself better. “Something about that honesty made me feel understood.”

Yarrow found self-acceptance. Through Jeffrey’s story — through the difficulty of his own reckoning with his sexuality in a time and place that offered no path forward — Yarrow was able to reckon with their own.

Eden G. says they might have gone down a different, darker path without it. They describe this as a kind of redirection, a steadying presence during difficult moments.

Frisky says simply: she is not the same person she was before. “I see everything differently now, even in my daily life. Something inside me has changed forever, but I can say with certainty that this change has been positive and empowering.”

What would you say to people who refuse to forgive or understand?

The responses to this question are the most carefully worded. All of them, in different ways, resist telling people how to feel.

Gray makes a distinction she considers essential. “Too many people treat forgiveness and forgetting as if they are the same thing, but they are not. Forgiveness does not mean excusing, justifying, or being okay with what someone has done. It means acknowledging the harm for what it is.” She adds: “Whether you choose to forgive is entirely your decision.”

Sylli takes the same position from a different angle. “I understand why many people struggle with forgiveness, and I would never tell anyone how they should feel. Understanding and excusing are two very different things. Seeking to understand someone’s psychology, struggles, or motivations does not mean approving of their actions.”

Lucy directs her response toward the specific problem of misinformation. “It does frustrate me to see people basing their opinions about the Jeffrey Dahmer case on what they’ve seen in the Netflix show when so much of it was fictionalised. I would encourage people to watch Jeff’s interviews, or footage of his father, Pat Kennedy, or Pamela Bass, to get a clearer picture of who he was as a person outside of his criminal activity.”

Frisky draws on her faith. “If the Lord is willing to forgive, then who are we as human beings to judge? In truth, no one has that right, not when compared to the immense love of our Heavenly Father.”

Eden G. is direct: “He did the crimes, and when he was alive he admitted to every single one of them. That alone is rare in serial killer cases. Not boasting — just admitting to it. That’s about as good as a criminal can do when it comes to responsibility.”

A Note from the Memorial

These seven voices represent something the memorial has always believed: that the people drawn to Jeffrey Dahmer’s story are not a monolith. They are researchers and writers, people in recovery and people in grief, people of faith and people of none, people who found self-acceptance here and people who simply couldn’t look away. They come from different countries, different decades of their lives, different ways of understanding the world.

What they share is a refusal to look away — and the conviction that looking away never helped anyone understand anything.

The memorial is grateful to everyone who shared their story here.

Exposing Fake Jeffrey Dahmer Channeling: When the Posts Write Themselves

Remember “Person B” from our recent article about how a rare Jeffrey Dahmer army photo leaked into public circulation?

The one who runs a YouTube channel claiming to channel Jeffrey’s spirit? The one who believes Jeffrey is her biological father? The one the memorial has previously identified as fake spiritual content preying on grief and fascination?

Here’s what she posts. Daily.

We’re not adding much commentary. We’re just presenting it. You can judge for yourself.

The 5D Relationship

Let’s break down what’s being claimed here:

Jeffrey Dahmer (who died in 1994) is currently in “the 4d” (fourth dimension)
She is in “the 3d” (third dimension)
Therefore they are in a “5d relationship” (fifth dimension)
When Jeffrey “doubles with her” (whatever that means), they’re both in the 3d
They have such strong telepathy that they “don’t need to talk in our minds”
They’ve been together “24/7 for over two months now”
Jeffrey is “very shy” about manifesting physically in this dimension
He’s afraid she won’t like him

She then describes waiting for Jeffrey to “take one step forward” into this dimension so she can “see him and talk to him as if he never left.”

Dimensional Farts and Darth Vader

But wait. It gets better.

She continues:

“In the meantime however since my psychic abilities continue to grow stronger by the hour, I’m now so tuned into Jeff when he is not doubling with me that I have heard him through the other dimension fart twice now, snore, and last night say “sweetie” in some weird sounding Darth Vader voice that startled me so much, that he now thinks that I won’t like him again and it will probably be another week before he takes that step forward.”

Read that again.

She can hear Jeffrey Dahmer:

Fart (twice)
Snore
Say “sweetie” in a Darth Vader voice

All through dimensions. And because the Darth Vader voice startled her, Jeffrey now thinks she won’t like him and it will be “another week” before he manifests physically.

She ends with: “I love you Jeff, your voice just sounded weird because you were coming from another dimension and I was half awake 😂😔💕🤷‍♀️”

The Glasses That Don’t Exist

This same person claims to own several pairs of Jeffrey Dahmer’s glasses.

Jeffrey’s authenticated glasses are worth approximately $100,000 each. They are extremely rare, documented artifacts. There are perhaps a handful in existence, all accounted for in museums, authenticated private collections, or documented sales with provenance.

She does not have them. She cannot provide authentication. She cannot provide provenance. Because they don’t exist.

Why This Matters

This is what fake channeling looks like.

People who are grieving, fascinated, or seeking genuine connection with Jeffrey Dahmer can fall for this content. They might:

Give money
Give attention and platform
Share private material (like the army photo that was leaked from someone’s private collection)
Believe they’re participating in something sacred when they’re being manipulated

The memorial does not endorse channeling, mediums, or anyone claiming to speak for the dead. We exist to hold Jeffrey Dahmer’s full humanity — the real person who lived, suffered, hurt others, and died. Not a cartoon spirit who farts through dimensions and speaks in Darth Vader voices while being too shy to manifest.

The Posts Write Themselves

We don’t need to add much to this. The content speaks for itself.

Dimensional relationships. Telepathic conversations. Spiritual farts. Darth Vader voices. Fake glasses collections. Daily updates about why Jeffrey is too shy to step into the 3d.

This is not grief. This is not spiritual connection. This is not channeling.

This is someone making content for attention, claiming impossible things, and deceiving people who genuinely care about understanding Jeffrey Dahmer.

The memorial’s position is clear: this is fake. This is harmful. And we will continue to identify it as such.

If you encounter content like this — on YouTube, TikTok, or anywhere else — please approach it with skepticism. Ask for evidence. Ask for authentication. Ask why Jeffrey would be too shy to manifest but confident enough to fart audibly through dimensions.

And if something sounds ridiculous, trust your instinct. It probably is!

How a Rare Photo of Jeffrey Dahmer Surfaced (And Why Memorial Drama Is Part of the Story)

So here’s a photo of Jeffrey Dahmer you probably haven’t seen before.

He’s in the Army. Early days. Ordinary. Human. The kind of photo that reminds you he was a real person who existed in the world before everything went wrong.

How did we get this photo?

Well. That’s a story about parasocial relationships, community betrayal, leaked private collections, and someone who runs a YouTube channel claiming to channel Jeffrey’s spirit and believes he’s her father.

Welcome to memorial community drama.

Here’s What Happened (No Names, Because We’re Not Monsters)

Someone in the memorial community — let’s call her Person A — had this photo saved privately. Part of her personal collection. Not public. Not shared.

Enter Person B: runs a YouTube channel that the memorial has previously exposed as fake. Claims to communicate with Jeffrey’s spirit. Believes Jeffrey is her biological father. (Yes, really. No, we’re not going to unpack that here.)

Person B wanted the photo. She got it by, shall we say, persistent social networking — annoying people until they gave her what she wanted.

Then Person B leaked it. Posted it on her YouTube channel. Posted it on TikTok. Made it public for everyone to see.

Person A is furious. Her private collection, now everywhere.

But Here’s The Thing

Person A? She’s been spreading some pretty nasty lies about us. Saying mean stuff. And — here’s the karma part — she also allegedly leaked private photos of Lionel Dahmer (Jeffrey’s father) that should never have been made public.

So. Karma showed up. And now we all have this rare photo of Jeffrey in the Army.

Why This Matters

Memorial communities are messy. People form intense parasocial relationships with the dead. They claim spiritual connections. They hoard private material. They betray each other. They leak things out of spite or desperation or because they genuinely believe they’re doing sacred work.

And somehow, through all that chaos, new material emerges.

This photo wouldn’t be public if Person B hadn’t been obsessed enough to hunt it down and Person A hadn’t been careless enough to let it slip. The memorial exists because people care deeply — sometimes too deeply, sometimes in ways that get weird and uncomfortable.

But the photo is real. Jeffrey was real. He stood in that Army uniform, young and ordinary, before everything collapsed.

About That YouTube Channel

We’re not linking to it. We’ve previously exposed “Channeling Jeff” as fake spiritual content that preys on people’s grief and fascination. The memorial does not endorse channeling, mediums, or anyone claiming to speak for Jeffrey’s spirit.

But we’re also not going to pretend the photo doesn’t exist just because of how it surfaced.

The Larger Point

Memorial work is not clean. It’s not academic. It’s not removed from the messiness of human behavior.

It’s people fighting over photos. It’s leaked private collections. It’s spiritual charlatans and ex-friends and karma coming full circle.

And sometimes, through all that chaos, we get a glimpse of Jeffrey as he actually was: a young man in an Army uniform, standing with other soldiers, ordinary and human and real.

That’s the photo. That’s the story. That’s memorial work.

The Record: Myths About Jeffrey Dahmer That Need to Stop

Thirty years of true crime content have layered fiction on top of fact until the two are nearly indistinguishable. This article addresses the most persistent claims circulating about Jeffrey Dahmer that are either false, unverified, or significantly misrepresented.

He killed and mutilated a dog as a teenager.

False. Jeffrey Dahmer denied this throughout his life. What is documented is that he collected and dissected animal carcasses he found already dead, driven by a fascination with anatomy and the interior of living things. That is meaningfully different from harming a living animal. No evidence has ever been produced to support the claim that he killed a pet. He was, by multiple accounts, fond of animals.

He made terrorising phone calls to victims’ families.

Unverified. Some families of missing persons received anonymous calls from an unidentified man in the period before Jeffrey’s arrest. The attribution of those calls to Jeffrey has never been conclusively established. There are no recordings, no phone records, and no confession. Jeffrey denied making them. The claim is frequently presented as established fact. It is not.

He killed a fellow inmate in prison.

False. Jeffrey Dahmer did not kill anyone in prison. He was killed on November 28, 1994, by Christopher Scarver, alongside fellow inmate Jesse Anderson, while on a cleaning detail at Columbia Correctional Institution. This is fully documented. The rumour that he committed a prison murder appears to exist because people assume he must have continued killing. He did not.

He was a cannibal who consumed his victims.

Misleading. Jeffrey did consume parts of some victims — he was honest about this. But the word “cannibal,” as it is used in headlines and true crime content, implies predatory contempt. What Jeffrey described was the opposite: a desperate need for the person not to leave, to remain part of him permanently. It was a catastrophically distorted expression of attachment, not hatred or hunger. The framing matters. The popular framing is wrong.

He targeted Black men because he hated Black people.

Oversimplified and contradicted by the record. The majority of Jeffrey’s victims were men of colour, and that fact deserves honest acknowledgment. However, the conclusion that this was motivated by racial hatred is not supported by Jeffrey’s own extensive accounts of his crimes, his attraction to his victims, or the testimony of those who knew him. The men who attacked and killed him in prison believed they were punishing a racist who had hunted Black men as prey. That belief was built on the same flattened mythology, not on the documented record. The reality is more complex, and complexity is not the same as excuse.

His father Lionel abused him.

False, and directly contradicted by Jeffrey himself. This claim circulates widely, particularly in the wake of dramatised portrayals of the Dahmer family. Jeffrey consistently and clearly stated throughout his confessions, interviews, and correspondence that he was not abused by his parents or by anyone else in his life. He described his parents as caring people who loved him. He did not use his childhood as a mitigating narrative, and he had every reason to do so had it been true. Attributing his crimes to parental abuse is not only factually unsupported — it also removes Jeffrey’s own voice from the record and replaces it with a convenient fiction.

He gave his neighbour a sandwich made with human meat.

False. This scene was invented for the 2022 Netflix dramatisation Monster: The Jeffrey Dahmer Story and has no basis in documented fact. It did not happen. It was not reported by any neighbour, referenced in any police record, or mentioned in any credible source. It is screenwriting, not history. The scene has since circulated as if it were real, which is a precise example of how dramatisation manufactures myth.

He contaminated the chocolate at the Ambrosia factory.

False. During his trial, Jeffrey was asked repeatedly whether he had ever contaminated the chocolate mixture at the Milwaukee Ambrosia Chocolate Factory, where he worked as a mixer on the night shift. The suspicion was understandable given the circumstances, but it was entirely unfounded. Jeffrey denied it each time, reportedly responding: “What kind of monster do you think I am?” No evidence of any kind — no contamination reports, no complaints, no corroborating testimony — was ever produced. The claim does not appear in any credible source. It circulates as dark rumour, nothing more.

A note on sources.

Jeffrey Dahmer was, by all accounts of those who interviewed and worked with him, unusually honest. He confessed to everything. He cooperated with investigators, researchers, and journalists at length. He did not minimise. He actively tried to help people understand what had happened and why. The persistence of fabrications and exaggerations about him is not a reflection of who he was. It is a reflection of what true crime does to people it decides are monsters.

Sources: Trial and confession records, 1991–1992; Stone Phillips interview, Dateline NBC, 1994; Brian Masters, The Shrine of Jeffrey Dahmer, 1993; Lionel Dahmer, A Father’s Story, 1994.